Codependency is the denial, loss or repression of the real self. It is based on the belief that love, acceptance, security, success, closeness are dependent upon one’s ability to control (or have tremendous impact) on another person’s behavior/life.

Common signs of Codependency:

-Assume responsibility of meeting others needs to the exclusion of acknowledging their own.

-Feel anxiety, pity, and guilt when other people have a problem.

-Feel angry when their help isn’t effective.

-Abandon their routine to respond to or do something for somebody else. 

-Feel safest when giving.

-Overcommit themselves.

-Find themselves attracted to needy people.

-Wonder why others don’t do the same for them.

-Try to please others instead of themselves.

-Find it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others, rather than injustices done to themselves.

-Feel insecure and guilty when somebody gives to them.

-Feel bored, empty, and worthless if they don’t have a crisis in their lives, a problem to solve, or someone to help.

-Feel sad because they spend their whole lives giving to other people and nobody gives to them.

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